Mom Win Wednesday: Melissa Anderson

Michelle
Michelle

Today we are excited to feature Melissa Anderson!

Michelle
Melissa

Hi! 🙂  I am Melissa Anderson.  Here is my family… Kevin, my husband, and my three 3 busy and (mostly) sweet kids … Jacob (10), Bella (8), Brady (4).  

And a photo of my 3 kiddos and I… For those who know my family, this pretty much describes us perfectly. They love mom snuggles.  While there are days I want to lock myself in my room and say Stop. Touching. Me… I am pretty sure when they actually stop, I am going to cry.  I will take the 10 hugs, 5 kisses, and the “I love you’s” as long as I can get them!

 

And my fabulous husband… isn’t he adorable 😉

Michelle
Michelle

Aw, so fun! Such sweet pictures and side note – I absolutely love the photos you take!

Do you wear any other hats in addition to your [big, gigantic, hugely significant] Mom Hat?

Michelle
Melissa

Haha, YES! … Aside from my kids keeping me crazy busy with their activities, school work, and social life,  I teach part time as a 4th grade teacher.  As well, I run my own photography business.

[You can find her:

www.melissaandersonphotography.com

On Facebook 

On Instagram ]

Michelle
Michelle

Teaching 4th grade with you feels like a really long time ago! And let me say – how fortunate are those students who get you as their teacher.

So tell us about your kids…

Michelle
Melissa

Jacob (10)  is my oldest.. Typical first born and pretty much my husband’s twin in the way he looks and acts.  While he loves his friends, he is just as happy to hang out with mom or dad watching a movie, playing a game of cards, or watching sports.  He has the biggest most caring heart and wants more than anything to please others.  

Bella is our spitfire.  She is so spunky and full of life.  HUGE extrovert.  She loves being around people and always wants to be entertained. I always say she is my child who I worry the least about in a social settings because nobody is going to tell that girl what to do.  While this personality often comes with parenting challenges, she also has such compassion for others and will be the first to notice that girl or boy being made fun of… and prance over to tell the mean kids to stop. Haha!  

Brady.. He is probably my biggest parenting challenge right now. He is SO BUSY!  He wants more than anything to try to keep up with his big brother and sister.  And the potty words flow from his mouth more than I care to admit. I battle between ignoring and trying to stop the behavior.  However, this kid is FUNNY!  Definitely our family’s class clown.

Michelle
Michelle

I can definitely relate to the fun and challenge with each of our kids’ personalities. You say it well! What is a recent mom win you experienced that took time and perseverance to accomplish?

Michelle
Melissa

As a mom with 2 jobs and a busy list of to do’s, the mom guilt is often pretty huge.  I am a teacher and photographer, but my most important job is a mom and wife.  However,  that doesn’t mean that I don’t sometimes have to tell my kids I can’t play right now because I have work to do.  I want  to live my life with no relational regrets with my family because investing in them and their hearts is my number one priority.  But I don’t always get it right.. the balance is so hard.  

I have been praying big time about this recently… asking Jesus to please give me his heart of love, patience, and selflessness when I am struggling to find it within me.   I want my kids to feel loved, that they can talk to me, and that their daily lives and events are important to me.   I am SO bad at saying… Oh wait, let me change the laundry, or hold on let me just respond to this email.  

I have been trying really hard to be intentional about finding time to connect with my kids one on one without distractions.  I have recently realized I do this best when I leave my house.  Having hot chocolate at Kid Coffee or ice cream at Menchies.. We will play our little game of “truth”, a board game, or a card game (both Menchies and Kidd Coffee have games). Even if it’s just for 45min-1 hour, it has really helped us connect and we’ve had some of the best conversations.  They leave feeling like their little 4, 8 and 10 year old worries and/or successes are heard and valued.  I hope that these little conversations will help them feel comfortable sharing as they grow older.   

Michelle
Michelle

Oh Melissa, do I relate with this! Juggling well and making sure my kids feel like a priority is probably my number-one concern right now. I love that you have found a way to connect with them and I have been thinking of doing this too. Thanks for the encouragement to do so!

What is a mom win that you would text your best friend?

Michelle
Melissa

Woot woot! We have a free night with no activities!  Those nights are rare and oh, so treasured at our house!  

Michelle
Michelle

Yay! We are not quite in that season yet since my girls are a little younger, but I still can definitely empathize with the excitement that nothing is on the schedule!

Any words of encouragement for other moms in the trenches like you?

Michelle
Melissa

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” 1 Thessalonians 5:11  

I have been blessed with some of the best friends…  this mom thing would be so much harder without them.   There was a time when my kids were younger I felt guilty leaving my kids to make time for these precious people.  Girls, we need these people and they need us.  Find your tribe and invest in them.   Love them unconditionally, celebrate with them, laugh with them, cry with them, pray with them, encourage them, listen to them, and BE EXCITED for them in their life successes.   xoxo

Michelle
Michelle

Thank you, Melissa, so much for sharing your heart with us today. I can relate to everything you said and I know many moms will too!

Michelle

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About Michelle Warner

The truth about me is that I love spending time with people–whether it be with moms in MOPS, students in writing camps, friends in my supper club, or family on our patio. And if you combine people and words, I am definitely in my happy place. One of my most favorite moments is sitting around a table with the people I love sharing deep conversations about life. Inviting people into our home and pulling out my fancy dishes invigorates me, though tackling the hand-wash pile in my sink does quite the opposite. (Sorry, Hubby. I’ll get to those soon!) I’m learning to enjoy the people in my life without feeling the need to prove myself or always make them happy. God continues to teach me that when I find what I need in Him rather than the perfectly-cooked chicken or the perfectly-timed word, I have a security that can’t be shaken. And that’s a good thing since my hard-working husband and I have two very determined little girls who keep us on our toes!