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A Season of Mending

11 / 12 / 1811 / 12 / 18

Anna
Anna

Once again I have failed at getting nominated for the Mother of the Year award! I yelled at my son… And of course, now the kids are in bed and I feel horrible.

Anna
Virginia

Oh boy, I feel like I am finally recovering from a whole season of that junk!

Anna
Anna

Ahh, recovery is possible?!? Got any tips on turning things around?

Anna
Virginia

Yes, recovery is possible, but it is not instantaneous. You know I had not noticed but it had building for a long time. I called my mom one day and she made a comment about my son’s behavior and it stuck with me. It really had gotten bad. My son and I had been screaming at each other daily for several months, but I had just taken it to be typical 5-year-old behavior and blaming him for our bad days.

Anna
Anna

Easy to do. And sometimes hard to know what’s “typical” or a phase, and what’s not. Did your mom’s comment make you feel defensive?

Anna
Virginia

Actually, no. I knew my mom was saying it out of love and concern for both of us. I didn’t take at as an attack on my parenting style, though I would have had it been a stranger’s comment. She even suggested we get outside help. That part of her comment actually threw me into a panic. Although I was okay with seeing counselors for my own problems, when something happened with my child, it was heartbreaking.

Anna
Anna

I totally get that. It seems more intense somehow, when it’s related to one of your kids. So did you see the counselor? Did it help?

Anna
Virginia

Yes, and it helped immensely! I’m laughing because, as is often the case, people come to counseling telling the therapist: “X person is the problem. Help me change X.” All good counselors respond to that demand with: “Okay. Let’s talk about you a little bit first.”

Anna
Anna

Ugh. The big turn-around! And like the log in your own eye, kind of thing. That’s hard work.

Anna
Virginia

Yes! They always have that magic way of helping you realize what to do on your own and not focusing on the other person. It is a little like magic. When you change your own behavior, things usually do change.

Anna
Anna

Amazing, but so true. It’s just like turning a huge ship around! So did the counselor give you any practical strategies to use with your son?

Anna
Virginia

We talked about parenting strategies and self care. I am using a chore chart for his morning routine and have cut down on the amount of television we watch each day. I’m also learning to manage my own stress and self care is a huge part of that.

Anna
Anna

Good stuff… Tell me more about the stress management and the self care. What do you do now that you didn’t before?

Anna
Virginia

I wasn’t taking care of myself and the stress was accumulating. It has to go somewhere and that somewhere was, sadly, my precious boy’s heart. So now I make it a priority to take a walk by myself, eat well, and listen to music.

Anna
Anna

It really does accumulate. For me, I usually don’t even know it’s building up until it’s too late and I’ve let it explode out of me.

Anna
Virginia

Same here! There is no prize at the end for forsaking one’s own mind and body.

Anna
Anna

There’s not??? Oh bummer. I might have a shot at that award (unlike the MOTY one, ha).

Anna
Virginia

But God doesn’t ask us to!

Anna
Anna

Ahhh. You are so right. Sometimes I actually stop and ask myself, “What is God asking me to do here?” And it’s never to be a martyr. It’s not to drive myself into the ground so that I can live up to the expectations portrayed in the movies and TV and even well-meaning strangers’ suggestions.

Anna
Virginia

Unfortunately believing that lie was what got me into my mess. I was striving to the point of fatigue and frustration to be the “perfect mom.” There are no perfect moms. Ironically, I was working so hard that I was neglecting my own child. So I now see that not taking care of myself hinders me from taking care of others. It’s not me above them; it’s me and them. Moms don’t have to choose.

Anna
Anna

Yes!! We’ve got to tear down that lie in our minds and hearts. It’s like a giant facade that we have to demolish. How did you fight this lie?

Anna
Virginia

I am focusing on how God sees me. God does not condemn me. He’s not waiting to punish me; He is waiting for me to come to Him for comfort when I make a mistake.

Anna
Anna

I just love reading those sentences. I could read them over and over!

Anna
Virginia

I need them tattooed on my forehead, for real! Lol. God’s Word is like a new white tee shirt. You put it next to your old white tees and they seem dingy in comparison. We need that crispness of God’s truth to stand next to the lies that lead us astray.

Anna
Anna

Me too. And I love that image. It’s so true.

Anna
Virginia

Yes! That’s really the key. First we ditch the lie that we have to be perfect. Once I was secure in God’s love for me, I could take care of myself — and then I was able to have the emotional, mental and physical energy to devote to repairing the relationship with my son.

Anna
Anna

Wow, amazing how that security leads to the mending of your relationship. So everything is healed?

Anna
Virginia

Haha, for the most part. We have certainly come out on the other side of that season but relationship building is a lifelong process. Every day I need to find moments to take care of myself and connect with my son. At the end of the day, I reconnect with God and what He thinks of me and that helps me start again the next day.  

Soaking in the Truth

Scripture to encourage you:

  • “There is a time and for everything, and a season for every activity under the sun; a time to tear and a time to mend,” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 6a).
  • “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,” (Romans 8:1).
  • “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God,” (Romans 15:7).
  • “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery,” (Galatians 5:1).

Music to Inspire you:

  • “Known” by Tauren Wells
  • “More Than You Think I Am” by Danny Gokey
  • “He Knows My Name” by Francesca Battistelli
  • “I Get To Be the One” by JJ Heller

Readings and Resources to come alongside you:

  • She’s Gonna Blow! by Julie Ann Barnhill
  • Scream Free Parenting by Hal Runkel
  • Podcast: Don’t Mom Alone

Related posts on Texting the Truth:

  • Redeeming Angry Moments
  • Searching for What to Keep
  • Beautiful in His Time: A New Season

Living Out the Truth

Ideas to try:

  • Anger is often described as a secondary emotion. Ask yourself, “What is underneath this anger? Is it loneliness, anxiety, hurt, need, or something else?”
  • Write anger management statements on index cards such as “I am only responsible for my behavior.”
  • Find an outlet for your frustration and stress. Do you enjoy listening to music or a podcast? Can you do that while you wash dishes or prepare dinner? Would you enjoy a family walk around the block after dinner, or ask for an hour of alone time on a Saturday morning?

Treasured Products we love:

  • A Stress-Relieving Essential Oil Roller Blend, like doTERRA’s Calm Mama (my fav), or this one on Amazon: Chill
  • EO Bubble Bath

{These suggestions are ideas from novice moms. Sometimes our life situations need more. In that case, seeking out professional help is the right call.}

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Blue Stamps and Broken Boots

10 / 12 / 18

“There is a time to weep and a time to laugh,” (Ecc 3:4). I definitely do more of BOTH of those since I became a mother 12 years ago! Just this week alone…

😆I laughed when my son ate 6 bananas in one sitting and was so thirsty that he drank from a straw in his cup while simultaneously filling it up! His boyishness is all a wonder to me since I grew up in a family of all girls!
😆I laughed (as an aunt) when I went to get my two-year-old nephew out of the car and he was covered in blue stamps!!! He was also drooling blue, so I know he had been sucking on it. He looked like a little Oompa-Loompa!

But there were also some tears this week…if I’m being honest here.

😥I cried when my 6-year-old daughter started to really read a book for the first time this week! Which was that odd motherly mix of joy/sadness tears! My last baby is reading. How did she get so old?
😥I cried tears of anger and guilt too. My son fractured his foot goofing around last weekend and ended up in a boot. It was expensive. He was told over and over again that he can’t run around the way he normally does. But he “forgot” and went outside to play, coming in minutes later with a broken boot (did I mention it was only 4 days old?).

I was tired from a long day of substitute teaching on top of regular mom duties, and my anger bubbled up instantaneously.🌋 Then after a bad interaction, I heard him crying in the shower and felt horrible, awful guilt. That is when the tears came for me.😭

I knew I needed to go to bed and get some sleep at that point.🛌 I think a lot of mom tears just come from being over-tired. Sometimes putting myself to bed the way I would when my kids are melting down is the smartest thing I can do.

But the next day, the Lord gently reminded me that things can always be made right again. A loving God who gives me second and third and 100th chances. And I do the same for my kids. After all, “Love covers over a multitude of sins,” 1 Peter 4:8. I like picturing a blanket, covering over my sins. 💕

So the next day, we made an appointment and went in to the office. They gave us a new boot with no questions asked!😮 In the car, we talked about obeying and anger and taking care of things and self-control. Our mistakes became a tool for conversation.

So… What has made you laugh this week?🤣
What has made you cry?😭

Know that whatever mistakes you make or your children make, God is a BIG God, and He can use it for good. He loves you, and He loves your children, that much.

💜Anna

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