Raising Generous Kids

Anna
Anna

Well, my plan FAILED again! 😕

Anna
Laura
Laura

Oh, no… what happened? You know what they say about the best laid plans, right?

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yes…ugh. I am SO frustrated with my kids right now. I wanted to start off the holiday season with giving, instead of making a huge list of everything they want for Christmas (when they need nothing. I mean, we need no more stuff in this house!).

Anna
Laura
Laura

I hear you on all points! How do we focus on giving? How do we focus on gratitude instead of greediness? And seriously… the stuff? It’s a little out of control!

Laura
Anna
Anna

Right?! So my plan was to show them an Operation Christmas Child video, talk to them about children in other places who don’t have what they have, and then give them each a box to fill. So we did that, we went to the store together, and what do they do? Ask me for stuff — “Mom, can I have this? Mom, I have $10 at home, will you buy this for me? I’ll pay you back!” 😡

Anna
Laura
Laura

I wish you could hear me laughing/crying right now… It’s not really funny, of course, but it’s comical because it’s normal. Sad and typical of our kids who have more than they know!  

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yeah, I think I said “THIS IS NOT FOR YOU!” about 15 times. #notaspecialmoment

Anna
Laura
Laura

But it’s such a good goal you had here! And it seems the purpose was lost on them, but maybe it wasn’t?

Laura
Anna
Anna

Maybe… They just didn’t seem like their hearts were in it. Even when we got home and were packing the boxes, I felt like they were doing it to please me. Was it worth anything? It makes me sad because I don’t want them to be entitled kids.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Me either! But even if they packed those boxes to please you, they still did it. They still will be able to track that box all the way to wherever it goes (if you paid the extra $9, that is!?)  

Laura
Anna
Anna

We totally did pay the extra $9, and my hope was still that if they could see where it went, it would become a little more real.

Anna
Laura
Laura

You have to start somewhere!

Laura
Anna
Anna

(Sigh.) I guess you are right. As a mom you just hope and pray that something sinks in, even though you can’t tell sometimes. At least not yet. I guess I can’t expect this one big attempt at giving to instantly give them generous, thankful hearts.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Yes. We have a tough job here. In so many ways we want our kids to be normal, and sometimes I feel like it’s my fault that my boys are so entitled. After all, I have helped fill our house with the stuff.  

Laura
Anna
Anna

Me too… And on the other hand, we’re not “normal” — or shouldn’t be. We have a great gift that changes us: Jesus. And because of that, He asks us to live a little differently from the “norm.”

Anna
Laura
Laura

So true. I’m so glad that we can work together as moms to figure out how to do this. How do we raise thankful kids? Grateful kids? Kids who want what they want because they’re kids, but who also pack boxes for kids who want for what we take for granted? Kids who know what the greatest gift is and are ready at all times to give that away. #thetruthaboutgrowingup

Laura
Anna
Anna

I think we can just pray to be more aware of opportunities on a daily basis…to be on the lookout for those times when we can be generous in small ways. Lots of small things over time could add up to a lot. And hey… by the way, I think we’re doing at least some of that already. So maybe I can chill out a little. 😌

Anna
Laura
Laura

Um, yes! You and your kids did a wonderful thing for others. You did it with a heart that pleases God. And you know how much you have to be thankful even if they don’t… yet! Have a great Thanksgiving, dear friend!

Laura

Soaking in the Truth

Scripture to encourage you:

  • “Then the people rejoiced because they had offered so willingly, for they made their offering to the Lord with a whole heart…” 1 Chronicles 29:9
  • “Give, and it will be given to you.” Luke 6:38
  • “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Acts 20:35

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Living Out the Truth

Ideas to try:

  • Look for opportunities to show generosity, and take your kids with you when you can! Make dinner for a neighbor who just had surgery, and ask your child to help prepare or deliver it. Offer to give a friend a ride home in front of your child. Take extra clothing or canned goods to a local food pantry with your child. Make it a regular occurrence (not just during the holidays).
  • Use the word “generous” when you talk about the above things, so they get used to hearing it and thinking about it.
  • Share 1 thing that you are thankful for at dinner or bedtime. This helps to get the heart in the right place. Thankfulness prepares the heart to give.
  • Offer to share with little ones, and praise them when they share with you or siblings.

    {These suggestions are ideas from novice moms. Sometimes our life situations need more.
    In that case, seeking out professional help is the right call.}

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