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Moms in Progress: Virginia Forste

8 / 22 / 19

Laura
Laura

Today I am happy to chat with one of TtT’s own writers Virginia Forste. Virginia, would you please share a recent photo and tell us a little about your family.

Laura
Virginia

If by “recent” you mean “within the last year” then here is a recent photo. 😉 This was taken on our Disney World vacation in November. It was actually cold for once. We’re standing in front of our favorite restaurant located at the Fort Wilderness Resort. They have the most delicious breakfast buffet! I’d like to shake the hand of the genius who combined brisket, cheese and poached eggs! (It might sound odd but it’s so yummy!) This is the only vacation we take each year so we treat ourselves with a visit to this restaurant at least once.

Laura
Laura

That does sound interesting! I haven’t braved a Disney vacation with the fam yet, but we have started saving for it. Sounds like you’ll be able to give me some tips when that time comes around for us!
What truth did you hear recently that helped you that you could share with us today?

Laura
Virginia

I taught MAD camp a few weeks back which is similar to VBS that emphasizes music, art and drama. I get the privilege of teaching drama to 3rd and 4th graders which is totally my niche. That age is very silly, sweet and some of them even understand my sarcasm. Drama is a great way to teach people about personal change. We start out as little kids, uninhibited and honest. Then we slowly allow culture tell us who we need to be instead of affecting culture by growing into whom God made us. Although it’s easier to teach children who are quiet and obedient, I’m actually looking for that attitude and the willingness to be a risk taker. It occurred to me that that’s what God wants from me – to take risks, too. This truth also dovetails into a Northpoint Church podcast episode from a series they’re doing called “Out of the Shallows.” My faith won’t grow if I just sit in church and listen to people talk. I need to act on what I’m learning. I can’t be a better actor if I read and study the principles of acting. I have to literally act in both situations!

Laura
Laura

I love it when God speaks to us through the life we are living. You gave your time and just volunteered at MAD camp and now you have this practical spiritual wisdom to apply to your life!
What is your hardest parenting struggle currently?

Laura
Virginia

I’m happy to no longer be in my hardest season of parenting from last Spring but my struggle is staying the course. I am sure my friends are tired of hearing me talk about Kirk Martin and his Celebrate Calm program but it’s hard not to share when you feel like you’ve found something that works so well for your family. Then a pattern developed: I was in crisis, I found the program, I worked it and things were going well. Then the crisis period ended and without realizing it, I stopped working the program. Then I realized I was yelling more and the atmosphere in my home and my own soul were moving south again. I had to reorient myself and get back on the path. It’s probably like healthy eating: eating well for two weeks isn’t enough; to keep yourself healthy, you have to be consistent (I really dislike that word because it implies persistent hard work, sigh…) but it’s true.

Laura
Laura

I don’t mind hearing over and over again about something that is working well for you! And persistent hard work does sound so overwhelming, that’s true. But when you are working the program, and it has a positive impact on you and your family, then it’s totally worth the effort! Good job sticking to it!
What is going well?

Laura
Virginia

I would say our weekly bedtime reading. We were involved in our library’s summer reading challenge. I love to read and I read to our kids most nights unless it’s very late. It’s exciting to see how much they want to read with me: I can see the appeal is both exclusive time with me and the books themselves. I enjoy explaining to them why I don’t like a certain book (i.e. boring or confusing plot) and why some books are fun to read (the rhymes or humor). I hope this love will prosper beyond required reading into something they enjoy in their free time as I do.

Laura
Laura

I too love reading with my kids! Now that mine are getting older we are able to read back and forth. I’ll read a little, they read a little. And the books are longer and so we just get to spend more time together! I hope they love it as much as I do!
What is your least favorite household chore (which one would you pay someone else to do for you)?

Laura
Virginia

I have to pick one? Haha. I used to say dishes but putting away laundry is creeping up my “no thank you” list. It’s really because I’m a control freak and I want my five year old’s dresser drawers to be as orderly as mine. When I take time to fold clothes and I tell him to put them away and even though he does it without complaining, I cringe because I know all the meticulous piles I created (to make it easier for him) will be morphed into one giant wad of clothes shoved into a single drawer. Argh!

Laura
Laura

Oh, my children know there is nothing worse to mommy than having to refold clothes that were already folded! They avoid my folded laundry piles like raw broccoli!! And while I have taught them a few chores lately, I totally still put my precious laundry piles away myself! So good job in relinquishing some of that control!

Ok, let us have it… what is your most embarrassing mom fail?

Laura
Virginia

I’m sure I have embarrassing ones but the only one that comes to mind makes me cringe more than blush. Many of my mom fails have involved the bodily injuries I have inflicted upon my own children. It’s just statistics: they’re with me most of their lives right now. If they’re going to get hurt, I’m probably going to be a witness or a direct cause, though always unintentional.

Laura
Laura

Seems like pretty sound reasoning! So what did you do? ?

Laura
Virginia

At the time my daughter was 2 ½ we were taking those mommy and me swim classes at the YMCA. One morning we were leaving the changing room and heading toward the pool. Unfortunately I didn’t leave enough room for the door to swing open before I started leading my daughter out and as the door began to close, the bottom metal rim of the door cut right across her foot. For good reason she started crying really loudly and there was a good amount of blood. I had to carry her into the pool area and see the lifeguard immediately for BandAids. I felt so awful! She now has a scar but not the cool story to accompany it.

Laura
Laura

Oh, poor thing! I think it’s a pretty good story actually! But hopefully one she won’t actually remember!
What are some family activities you do that you would like your kids to remember?

Laura
Virginia

We like to ride bikes together. Before we moved to Ohio, my husband had a fantasy of his beautiful family riding together as lively instrumental music played in the background. After we moved we rented bikes and rode a little of the Loveland bike trail together as we each pulled a trailer with a kid inside. Although the parents were doing the actual work we had to stop every minute it seemed because “I need Goldfish” or “I’m hot” or “I’m thirsty” or “I just got a bug in my mouth!” It wasn’t quite the expectation. Haha. Now we finally have our own bikes and we’ll eventually take to the trail as one family. For now we ride around the neighborhood with fewer complaints.

Laura
Laura

It’s good to keep the expectations low for now, but I like that the dream of the family bike ride down the trail with inspirational instrumental music in the background isn’t lost forever! Let us know when that happens, ok?!
Thanks for sharing with us today Virginia!

Laura

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Moms in Progress: Laura Freytag

7 / 24 / 198 / 22 / 19

Virginia

Welcome to MiP Wednesday, Mamas! Today we’re featuring Laura Freytag, another fabulous Texting the Truth writer.

Laura, please tell us a little bit about yourself and share a family photo!

Laura
Laura

Hi everyone! This is our family picture from our most recent family vacation. For being 97 degrees and a heat index in the triple digits, we look pretty good!

Laura
Virginia

What a cute family pic!

What truth have you heard this week that has helped you?

Laura
Laura

I’ve been doing the First 5 study of Acts this summer. It’s an older study, but I wanted to re-read Acts to prepare for BSF (Bible Study Fellowship) this fall. Anyway, I’ve been struck with the power of the Spirit. That same power that filled those early believers fills me. It’s been helping me to ask in prayer for the power to have self-control in my areas of weakness (eating, exercising, patience).

Laura
Virginia

That’s awesome! We could all use more of that power.

What’s your hardest parenting struggle currently?

Laura
Laura

I have been very short of patience lately. My boys are so loud and they seem to not move unless I yell. I don’t like it. I don’t want to spend my summer days (or any other days) shouting. In the past I’ve yelled because I’ve wanted to be in control and I’ve tried to deal with that impulse. But this feels different, like a new layer of anger to deal with. I think the source of this anger is feeling like my words and opinions are not valued or respected. I find myself asking, “Am I talking out loud?” or “Am I invisible?” I’m still working on this, but I know that something needs to change.

Laura
Virginia

Laura, this was me six months ago! I know a lot of moms struggle feeling undervalued. I can tell you’re going to get at the root and work on it. Having the Holy Spirit’s power within you will help, big time!

Let’s focus on some good stuff. What is going well?

Laura
Laura

We are still pretty successfully using our sticker/stamp charts. As we get closer to the end of summer we are starting to decide what rewards will be given for the hard work. I am very glad that I have decided to teach the older boys some simple chores. They are learning to clean the bathroom sinks which is such a big help to me. And my oldest son’s personal goal was to learn to make his own breakfast. That is also a big help. I have enjoyed watching them take on new responsibilities.

Laura
Virginia

Way to go, mama! Your boys’ future wives will thank you as well! ?

What is your most embarrassing mom fail?

Laura
Laura

Ummm… There are so many. I think the one that stung the most came last summer when I had all 4 boys at Aldi with me. The boys weren’t exactly misbehaving, but they were being loud! We were looking at new lunch boxes and a plastic organizer for lunches to be packed in. I wanted to make sure that they could open each compartment on their own. So I was showing them how to open and close each one. How to put the water bottle in just right, and how to zip the lunch bag around the box. Anyway, they were excited, and we were definitely taking our half of the aisle out of the middle. We had already been in another shopper’s way once and we were clearly in his way again (because we were in everyone’s way). But he had no sympathy for this mother of 4 young boys. Then my youngest said something rude about him (not exactly to him, but we were being quite loud, remember). He said something like “Why is that man so fat?” Well this man heard it and he yelled at me that I should put my children in a zoo. That I was raising rude and disrespectful children. And that I should teach my children better manners, and that he deserved an apology from my 3 year old. He scared my boys so much that they flocked to me. I didn’t know what to say. It all happened so fast. I knew that when my youngest said that, I was thinking I was going to have him say he was sorry. But then when this man yelled at me I was so startled. I couldn’t think straight. And did my little boy really need to apologize to a 60 something man who was yelling at a mother in a grocery store? Anyway, the man went around the corner to the next row. We stayed where we were and all cried a little. It’s not like the store was that big, and I’m sure everyone heard him yelling at us. I was so embarrassed. Obviously that man was hurting and angry, but I did not handle the situation well. Later I wished I had spoken back to him and defended my boys better. But he hit a nerve in me. I always worry that my gaggle of boys is “too much” for people. And we are overwhelming. I do not have a wall flower in my bunch. But on the other hand, we are who we are. Sigh.

Laura
Virginia

You are who you are, and who God made y’all to be! Nothing wrong with that at all. You were gracious to give that guy some credit.

OK, one last question: What is your favorite summer activity to do as a family?

Laura
Laura

We have been spending a lot of time at the pool! Everyone is happy at the pool.

Laura
Virginia

Amen to that, sister! Laura, thank you so much for being with us today, and for writing on the blog (since the very beginning)! We are so glad you’re part of the team.

Laura
Laura

Thanks Virginia. This blog helps me to process life as a mom. Motherhood is not an easy job, but I love that my job is made easier by other moms around me experiencing the same struggles. I know that God is with us as we continue to make progress in each aspect of struggle and strength that He has built into our beings.

Laura

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