How is it that walking down the greeting card aisle of the grocery store stocked with cards saying “Happy Father’s Day!” triggers such deep emotions? Every. Year.

Right? I mean, maybe it’s a good thing?  Every June I’m going to have a little attitude shift from the Lord.  Last year grief, this year it’s a major reality check about how I treat my own hubby.

Oh, you know, just that I think deep inside I fear that my boys will have as challenged a relationship with their dad as I had with mine.  

Exactly!  I don’t want to let fear run my thinking! So as I’ve been taking that fear to God, I’ve realized something very important!

That has to be the first step.  But to appease that fear in the meantime, I’ve realized that I have been sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong. I’ve been trying to control the relationship between my hubby and my boys– trying to make it something I think it should be… opposite of the complications I had!  

That’s so true!  So instead of trying to butt into that relationship, I need to let it play out.  Less stepping on his toes when my hubby is disciplining.  Less trying to force him to take the boys to do something.  Less passive aggressive eye rolls or well-placed sighs.  And definitely less angry disagreeing with something he is doing when the boys are right there with us.  And anyway, he doesn’t do any of these things to me!  

Of course you don’t! ? I need to remember when I want to control a situation because of fear, I need to surrender the fear to God.  Then instead of trying to control those around me, I want to trust God to work on each of the boys and their daddy.  Finally, I want trust my hubby to do what he thinks is right in his own relationships with our boys even if it wouldn’t be how I would do it.

Ha, me too.? The reality is, my hubby is not just like my dad (far from it actually).  My boys are not just like me (thankfully).  And I am so thankful that God is at work in all of us! #thetruthaboutsummer #thetruthaboutfathersday