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Raising Generous Kids

11 / 20 / 1711 / 19 / 17

Anna
Anna

Well, my plan FAILED again! ?

Anna
Laura
Laura

Oh, no… what happened? You know what they say about the best laid plans, right?

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yes…ugh. I am SO frustrated with my kids right now. I wanted to start off the holiday season with giving, instead of making a huge list of everything they want for Christmas (when they need nothing. I mean, we need no more stuff in this house!).

Anna
Laura
Laura

I hear you on all points! How do we focus on giving? How do we focus on gratitude instead of greediness? And seriously… the stuff? It’s a little out of control!

Laura
Anna
Anna

Right?! So my plan was to show them an Operation Christmas Child video, talk to them about children in other places who don’t have what they have, and then give them each a box to fill. So we did that, we went to the store together, and what do they do? Ask me for stuff — “Mom, can I have this? Mom, I have $10 at home, will you buy this for me? I’ll pay you back!” ?

Anna
Laura
Laura

I wish you could hear me laughing/crying right now… It’s not really funny, of course, but it’s comical because it’s normal. Sad and typical of our kids who have more than they know!  

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yeah, I think I said “THIS IS NOT FOR YOU!” about 15 times. #notaspecialmoment

Anna
Laura
Laura

But it’s such a good goal you had here! And it seems the purpose was lost on them, but maybe it wasn’t?

Laura
Anna
Anna

Maybe… They just didn’t seem like their hearts were in it. Even when we got home and were packing the boxes, I felt like they were doing it to please me. Was it worth anything? It makes me sad because I don’t want them to be entitled kids.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Me either! But even if they packed those boxes to please you, they still did it. They still will be able to track that box all the way to wherever it goes (if you paid the extra $9, that is!?)  

Laura
Anna
Anna

We totally did pay the extra $9, and my hope was still that if they could see where it went, it would become a little more real.

Anna
Laura
Laura

You have to start somewhere!

Laura
Anna
Anna

(Sigh.) I guess you are right. As a mom you just hope and pray that something sinks in, even though you can’t tell sometimes. At least not yet. I guess I can’t expect this one big attempt at giving to instantly give them generous, thankful hearts.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Yes. We have a tough job here. In so many ways we want our kids to be normal, and sometimes I feel like it’s my fault that my boys are so entitled. After all, I have helped fill our house with the stuff.  

Laura
Anna
Anna

Me too… And on the other hand, we’re not “normal” — or shouldn’t be. We have a great gift that changes us: Jesus. And because of that, He asks us to live a little differently from the “norm.”

Anna
Laura
Laura

So true. I’m so glad that we can work together as moms to figure out how to do this. How do we raise thankful kids? Grateful kids? Kids who want what they want because they’re kids, but who also pack boxes for kids who want for what we take for granted? Kids who know what the greatest gift is and are ready at all times to give that away. #thetruthaboutgrowingup

Laura
Anna
Anna

I think we can just pray to be more aware of opportunities on a daily basis…to be on the lookout for those times when we can be generous in small ways. Lots of small things over time could add up to a lot. And hey… by the way, I think we’re doing at least some of that already. So maybe I can chill out a little. ?

Anna
Laura
Laura

Um, yes! You and your kids did a wonderful thing for others. You did it with a heart that pleases God. And you know how much you have to be thankful even if they don’t… yet! Have a great Thanksgiving, dear friend!

Laura

Soaking in the Truth

Scripture to encourage you:

  • “Then the people rejoiced because they had offered so willingly, for they made their offering to the Lord with a whole heart…” 1 Chronicles 29:9
  • “Give, and it will be given to you.” Luke 6:38
  • “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Acts 20:35

Music to inspire you:

  • “Give Thanks” originally by Don Moen, performed here by Unhindered

Readings and Resources to come alongside of you:

  • “The Generous Child: How to Teach Generosity, Ages 3 to 4” by The Baby Center
  • “Top 5 Ways to Raise a Generous Child at Any Age” by World Vision 
  • (An interesting read) “How to Raise Kinder, Less Entitled Kids (According to Science)” by the Washington Post

Related Posts on Texting the Truth:

  • “Decluttering Our Spiritual Closets”
  • “The Real Stuffing”

Living Out the Truth

Ideas to try:

  • Look for opportunities to show generosity, and take your kids with you when you can! Make dinner for a neighbor who just had surgery, and ask your child to help prepare or deliver it. Offer to give a friend a ride home in front of your child. Take extra clothing or canned goods to a local food pantry with your child. Make it a regular occurrence (not just during the holidays).
  • Use the word “generous” when you talk about the above things, so they get used to hearing it and thinking about it.
  • Share 1 thing that you are thankful for at dinner or bedtime. This helps to get the heart in the right place. Thankfulness prepares the heart to give.
  • Offer to share with little ones, and praise them when they share with you or siblings.

    {These suggestions are ideas from novice moms. Sometimes our life situations need more.
    In that case, seeking out professional help is the right call.}

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Mom Win Wednesday: Tracy Brusewitz

10 / 18 / 1710 / 17 / 17

Anna
Anna

Hi Tracy! Thanks so much for talking to us on Mom Win Wednesday. Tell us a little bit about this beautiful family pic!

Anna
Tracy

Hi there! My name is Tracy Brusewitz, and the picture below was one of our most successful selfie attempts as a family! We took it after coming home from church two weeks ago to celebrate my birthday. My husband, Andy, had picked out a beautiful (and very tasty) cake for us to enjoy and the kids were very excited to start enjoying it after we took a picture!

Anna
Anna

So THAT’S how I can get my kids to smile in pictures!! Haha, timing is everything! Tell us a little more about you, Tracy. Do you wear any other hats in addition to your [big, gigantic, hugely significant] Mom Hat?

Anna
Tracy

In addition to being a wife and mom, I work full time as an engineer supporting our fabric care business at P&G by leading the supply chain portion of delivering new products to the market within the Tide, Gain, and Downy brands. It is a fast paced business that continually challenges me to learn and develop, and I work with an incredible team!

Anna
Anna

Wow, that’s awesome, Tracy! (P.S. I ? Downy, so you are my hero. And when we get to Heaven someday, I think it will smell like Downy.)?

Tell us about your kiddos!

Anna
Tracy

Andy and I have been blessed by two incredible children! Natalie is 4.5 years old and she has a love of learning, a full imagination, and a heart of gold! She loves to both run and play hard on the playground and spend quiet time being artistic or doing a puzzle. Alex is 20 months old and he has a smile that melts me! He loves playing ball and has a pretty good arm already so we have to watch out for any ball throwing in the house! He loves to dance and he will join in singing many songs – including Old MacDonald and Let it Go! Natalie and Alex get along pretty well for the most part, and my favorite moments are when they get each other to laugh in their own special ways – sometimes without any words!

Anna
Anna

That’s the best! Your kids are adorable!!

So Tracy, this week as you know we’ve been talking about morning and bedtime routines. You shared something with me that I just thought was brilliant. Can you tell everyone your experience?

Anna
Tracy

Yes! I had begun to dread our morning routines because it felt like it was made up of constant mini battles that would ultimately drain my patience to the point where I would get frustrated and end up yelling at Natalie. We had some rough mornings over the course of a couple months, and I would ultimately feel awful (and guilty) over having lost my patience with her and then leaving on that note as we parted for work and school. I started trying different ideas and ultimately I found a few tricks that I am happy to share with anyone finding themselves with a similar challenge.

Anna
Anna

YES! We can’t wait to hear them!!!

Anna
Tracy

The best thing I learned was that the mornings go better if I take a few extra moments to snuggle with my kids to wake them up. I will crawl in Natalie’s bed many mornings and snuggle up to her and gently wake her up. Sometimes, I will play some music on my phone that I know she loves (Moanna and Trolls are popular choices these days). I have yet to have this not work! I also turned off all cartoons in the morning, and we usually keep it quiet or just use some music to pick up the pace and that helps everyone focus. I will remind Natalie of just the next 2 things that she needs to do to keep us on schedule (mostly). “Once you eat breakfast, you will need to brush your teeth.” And we keep all the tasks in the same order.

Anna
Anna

I told you (readers), this is good stuff, right? I tried this right after Tracy told me, and I am not kidding you, it WORKED.

One of the things that really bothers me is when I have to repeat myself over and over to do something, like go brush your hair. Does that ever still happen to you?

Anna
Tracy

Yes. So when I get caught in the 10th reminder to put shoes on, I do my best to take a deep breath and approach in love. I can’t say that these tricks have solved every morning challenge, but I have experienced a great improvement and much more joy to start the day! Because who doesn’t want to start the day with sweet cuddles or a dance party?

Anna
Anna

I do!? 

Next question, Tracy. What is a mom win that you would text your best friend?

Anna
Tracy

Alex has been a bit hesitant to try new solid foods over the past several months, and we believe it has been something to do with not loving certain textures. For much of the past 8 months, his diet consisted of almost all crackers (with peanut butter or cheese) or breakfast bars, with an occasional chicken nugget or French fry. It was hard to feel like mom of the year sending food to his school each day, knowing that likely any fruit, veg, or meat would likely be ignored or thrown on the floor. But ultimately, we have continued to offer him what he will eat and expose him to other food in small amounts to see what he might try – even letting him play a bit with food on our plates. Now he is more consistently eating chicken nuggets and pizza (hey, at least it’s something!), but we had a great win this weekend with grilled cheese and he was putting green beans in his mouth! Progress!

Anna
Anna

Absolutely! Progress not perfection, right?

What are you learning as a mom right now?

Anna
Tracy

I am doing a study right now called Fight Back with Joy by Margaret Feinberg, and it is really helping me recognize ways to bring more joy into my life, and my family’s lives! There is one tip that I have been trying to work into each day which is looking for a way to put an “exclamation mark” on the day. I’ve been using this as a reminder to be in the moment, especially on week nights when the time is so short between coming home and bedtime routines, and take the time to play a game, read the long stories, do pretend play, build the towers, make banana bread together, have the dance party, etc. It doesn’t have to be huge things, but something that makes the time together special and valued.

The other key learning for me is the value of rest, and taking the time to re-fuel my tank. It’s hard for me to step away from the “to-do” list and just take a nap, or spend some quiet time reading a book, but I’m realizing that feeling exhausted or at max capacity also doesn’t help me be a great mom or wife (or employee). So I’m trying to be intentional about planning in times of rest, and being OK to say no to things (including myself wanting to “do” things whether fun or errands).

Anna
Anna

I am loving this study too, Tracy. It has been so good on so many levels. I love what you said about being OK to say no to things. This is something I’m working on too!

Thank you for join us and sharing your mom wins with us!

Anna

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