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Mom Win Wednesday: Melissa Anderson

5 / 10 / 175 / 10 / 17

Michelle
Michelle

Today we are excited to feature Melissa Anderson!

Michelle
Melissa

Hi! 🙂  I am Melissa Anderson.  Here is my family… Kevin, my husband, and my three 3 busy and (mostly) sweet kids … Jacob (10), Bella (8), Brady (4).  

And a photo of my 3 kiddos and I… For those who know my family, this pretty much describes us perfectly. They love mom snuggles.  While there are days I want to lock myself in my room and say Stop. Touching. Me… I am pretty sure when they actually stop, I am going to cry.  I will take the 10 hugs, 5 kisses, and the “I love you’s” as long as I can get them!

 

And my fabulous husband… isn’t he adorable 😉

Michelle
Michelle

Aw, so fun! Such sweet pictures and side note – I absolutely love the photos you take!

Do you wear any other hats in addition to your [big, gigantic, hugely significant] Mom Hat?

Michelle
Melissa

Haha, YES! … Aside from my kids keeping me crazy busy with their activities, school work, and social life,  I teach part time as a 4th grade teacher.  As well, I run my own photography business.

[You can find her:

www.melissaandersonphotography.com

On Facebook 

On Instagram ]

Michelle
Michelle

Teaching 4th grade with you feels like a really long time ago! And let me say – how fortunate are those students who get you as their teacher.

So tell us about your kids…

Michelle
Melissa

Jacob (10)  is my oldest.. Typical first born and pretty much my husband’s twin in the way he looks and acts.  While he loves his friends, he is just as happy to hang out with mom or dad watching a movie, playing a game of cards, or watching sports.  He has the biggest most caring heart and wants more than anything to please others.  

Bella is our spitfire.  She is so spunky and full of life.  HUGE extrovert.  She loves being around people and always wants to be entertained. I always say she is my child who I worry the least about in a social settings because nobody is going to tell that girl what to do.  While this personality often comes with parenting challenges, she also has such compassion for others and will be the first to notice that girl or boy being made fun of… and prance over to tell the mean kids to stop. Haha!  

Brady.. He is probably my biggest parenting challenge right now. He is SO BUSY!  He wants more than anything to try to keep up with his big brother and sister.  And the potty words flow from his mouth more than I care to admit. I battle between ignoring and trying to stop the behavior.  However, this kid is FUNNY!  Definitely our family’s class clown.

Michelle
Michelle

I can definitely relate to the fun and challenge with each of our kids’ personalities. You say it well! What is a recent mom win you experienced that took time and perseverance to accomplish?

Michelle
Melissa

As a mom with 2 jobs and a busy list of to do’s, the mom guilt is often pretty huge.  I am a teacher and photographer, but my most important job is a mom and wife.  However,  that doesn’t mean that I don’t sometimes have to tell my kids I can’t play right now because I have work to do.  I want  to live my life with no relational regrets with my family because investing in them and their hearts is my number one priority.  But I don’t always get it right.. the balance is so hard.  

I have been praying big time about this recently… asking Jesus to please give me his heart of love, patience, and selflessness when I am struggling to find it within me.   I want my kids to feel loved, that they can talk to me, and that their daily lives and events are important to me.   I am SO bad at saying… Oh wait, let me change the laundry, or hold on let me just respond to this email.  

I have been trying really hard to be intentional about finding time to connect with my kids one on one without distractions.  I have recently realized I do this best when I leave my house.  Having hot chocolate at Kid Coffee or ice cream at Menchies.. We will play our little game of “truth”, a board game, or a card game (both Menchies and Kidd Coffee have games). Even if it’s just for 45min-1 hour, it has really helped us connect and we’ve had some of the best conversations.  They leave feeling like their little 4, 8 and 10 year old worries and/or successes are heard and valued.  I hope that these little conversations will help them feel comfortable sharing as they grow older.   

Michelle
Michelle

Oh Melissa, do I relate with this! Juggling well and making sure my kids feel like a priority is probably my number-one concern right now. I love that you have found a way to connect with them and I have been thinking of doing this too. Thanks for the encouragement to do so!

What is a mom win that you would text your best friend?

Michelle
Melissa

Woot woot! We have a free night with no activities!  Those nights are rare and oh, so treasured at our house!  

Michelle
Michelle

Yay! We are not quite in that season yet since my girls are a little younger, but I still can definitely empathize with the excitement that nothing is on the schedule!

Any words of encouragement for other moms in the trenches like you?

Michelle
Melissa

“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” 1 Thessalonians 5:11  

I have been blessed with some of the best friends…  this mom thing would be so much harder without them.   There was a time when my kids were younger I felt guilty leaving my kids to make time for these precious people.  Girls, we need these people and they need us.  Find your tribe and invest in them.   Love them unconditionally, celebrate with them, laugh with them, cry with them, pray with them, encourage them, listen to them, and BE EXCITED for them in their life successes.   xoxo

Michelle
Michelle

Thank you, Melissa, so much for sharing your heart with us today. I can relate to everything you said and I know many moms will too!

Michelle

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I Dropped My Friend Ball

4 / 23 / 179 / 29 / 17

Laura
Laura

Sigh….   I’ve been juggling a lot lately.  Don’t get me wrong, I like to be busy, but I’ve been so busy lately that I’ve dropped something pretty important: my friends.

Laura
Anna
Anna

Oh yeah! Been there, done that! Unintentionally, but it is easy to do with kids, work, sports, hubby, and all the balls we have to juggle. ⚽⚾???  The “friend ball” gets lost. ? ? ? ?

Anna
Laura
Laura

Yep! Gone with the wind! I’ve realized when I used to  reach out, I’ve been working on other things  I’ve committed to.  I try to work friends in occasionally, but then I don’t follow through. And then I feel guilty because I’m not the “perfect friend”! And then after a while it gets easy to just not communicate. I wonder why I’m lonely?! How do I reconnect?  

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yes… It’s hard to  know where to begin. I start to wonder if they miss me, or need me in their lives? I realize as I’m writing these things, they seem so silly. Because my friend may be thinking the same thing, and the truth is, I DO miss them. I DO need them in my life!

Anna
Laura
Laura

I so DO!!!  There’s just nothing like a good girl-friend in my life! I love being with my boys (usually… wink-wink), I love spending time with my hubby, but I NEED friends to do life with even at a chaotic play-date or a rushed coffee-hour!  And it doesn’t have to be on a regular basis! Life with littles doesn’t afford that luxury like it used to!

Laura
Anna
Anna

Oh I totally struggle with that too. I’m such a “routine person” and I like things to be consistent. It’s so hard to accept it — but you’re right! It’s the stage of life that we’re in right now. It can feel isolating.

Anna
Laura
Laura

And when we are isolated by life’s circumstances, we need friends even more.  We need to hold each other up and sometimes that just takes us reaching out.  I’m all for a phone call, but even just a quick text to say, “How are you? I miss you!”  It could really help me.

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yep It does take a little work to carve out that time to talk with a friend. But it’s so worth the effort! Even if I can’t be a perfect friend, I need to realize that it’s okay to catch up occasionally and randomly.

Anna
Laura
Laura

It is ok! And I never regret grabbing coffee with a friend, even if it is squeezed in between grocery shopping and laundry and always in the middle of nap time on a Sunday.  That’s just what I can do for now!

Laura
Anna
Anna

I wish I had reached out to my friend, Jenny… I regret not doing that and think about it often..

Anna
Laura
Laura

Oh, goodness, Anna!  I forgot.  I bet this conversation has hit a sore spot for you.  How are you feeling about losing your dear friend so unexpectedly?

Laura
Anna
Anna

It’s rough. I still can’t believe she’s gone. And even though she lived in Texas, I wish I had picked up the phone every once in awhile and called her. The reality is, now I can’t. My sister says that her gift to us is that we remember how precious friendships are, and to take the time to let our loved ones know we are thinking about them, whatever that may look like in our current season of life.

Anna
Laura
Laura

It’s amazing that such a sweet lesson blossomed out of such a sad and sudden loss.  I’m sorry that you have the regret, but I hope you know that you don’t have to carry that as burden.  Our God is the God of all comfort!  But I hope that you feel that you can apply that lesson too.  And now, I can as well.  Because you’re so right.  It isn’t hard to reach out in a quick text.  I need to put aside guilt and awkward time gaps, and my idea of perfect friendships, and just reach out when I have a minute.

Laura
Anna
Anna

Thank you! And yes–now I tell myself, “JUST DO IT!” I think of Jenny and I just call, and I’m so glad when I do.

Anna
Laura
Laura

You know, I had a friend recently who I had been neglecting big time because of… well, it’s all excuses, but life.  Anyway, she knew that I was feeling bad about not connecting and she just took it as her personal mission to do all the reaching out during this season of my life.  She literally texted me everyday!  She reminded me I could do the hard tasks.  She just sent me little emoji high fives ??.  And it was great!  She could have been angry or annoyed at me for not being a good friend, but she chose not to pick up that offense and she blessed my socks off, if you know what I mean!

Laura
Anna
Anna

That’s awesome!!! I love that. What a great example of how to be a good friend.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Exactly!  I think with Jenny’s gift to us in mind and my friends’ example, we have what we need to give ourselves grace to be a good (not perfect) friend! I’m ready to pick that friend ball back up and throw it in that air and try to catch it along with everything else!  I won’t regret that and hopefully I can be there for someone else when they need it.

Laura

Soaking in the Truth

Scripture to encourage you:

  • “One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend.” (Proverbs 22:11, NIV).
  • “A friend loves at all times.” (Proverbs 17:17a, NIV)
  • “And Jonathan had David reaffirm his oath out of love for him, because he loved him as he loved himself… ‘Go in peace, for we have sworn friendship with each other in the name of the Lord.’” (1 Samuel 20:17, 42)

Music to inspire you:

  • “Friends” by Michael W. Smith (because who doesn’t love good ’80’s Christian Ballad?)

Readings and Resources to come alongside of you:

  • “An Open Letter to My Friends Who Don’t Have Kids” by Janie Porter
  • “Lonely Mommy: How Motherhood Took a Toll on my Friendships” from Shasta’s Friendship Blog (there are a lot of resources about friendship here!)
  • “Friendships in Motherhood” by Mary Byers posted on Hearts at Home

Living Out the Truth

Ideas to try:

  • Set aside a block of time (even just 20 minutes!) to reconnect in some way to the people you need in your life.  Send a text message, write a note and send it in the mail (gasp!), or pick up the phone and just reach out.  I’ve even found it helpful to use Facetime or Skype to connect with my friends when I can’t actually be with them.  It’s nice to see her face (and her kids’ faces) especially if you’re “trapped” inside due to sickness or baby’s 3 nap times or whatever!
  • Put a little gift in your friend’s mailbox. When we don’t have time sit down for coffee or chat for an hour on the phone, a little gesture is good too!
  • Find just one friend you can pray for who will pray for you.  It’s nice to know that even if you can’t meet and talk like you once could (I hopefully will be able to again in the future), you are building each other up through prayer.  

 

{These suggestions are ideas from novice moms. Sometimes our life situations need more.

In that case, seeking out professional help is the right call.}

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