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Disciplined Disciplining

2 / 6 / 174 / 19 / 18

Anna
Anna

Hey girls, my heart is weighed down tonight. My kids were testing, misbehaving, fighting, ignoring…well, you get the picture. My hubby and I had a talk because we realized that we nag, warn, and warn them AGAIN…

I am the worst about this, always justifying what they’re doing. ?  But the worst part is, then one of us hits a wall and gets really mad! Or gives out ridiculous consequences that limit everyone else in the family.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Ooooo… That sounds familiar! I’ve hit that wall more times than I care to admit! Did the two of you come to any conclusions??

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yeah, and we decided to tighten up. Use consequences and LESS WORDS. It is so hard!!! I just need a cheerleader telling me to keep it up, to be consistent. I want to be firm but not angry. It seems simple, but why is it not easy to do?

Anna
Laura
Laura

Laura
Anna
Anna

Thanks, Laura. Now if can you stand behind me all day long with your pom-poms, I’ll be good to go. ?

Anna
Laura
Laura

No problem! I’ll bring my whole squad (of boys) with me to help too!!!

Laura
Ashley
Ashley

Bring them over to my house, Laura, because I struggle with this too. I have realized I make excuses for bad behavior, like “Oh, I think her teeth are bothering her.” “She’s just really exhausted.” The list could go on and on…

Ashley
Laura
Laura

I think it’s hard because we also have excuses for ourselves and our own poor behavior!! Maybe it’s just me, but I think things like “I didn’t speak nicely because I have PMS” or “I didn’t get enough sleep.”  And even though no one sends me to time out, there are still consequences I don’t like! Anyway, I find follow-through with consequences for my children challenging because I don’t like to experience consequences myself.

Laura
Anna
Anna

Yes, makes total sense, Laura. I hate to disappoint anyone, including my kids because their disappointment is my disappointment too. If Benjamin has been waiting ALL DAY to go to the pool, and we’re finally there and right off the bat he breaks rules–clearly and despite warnings– he has to get out of the pool. Period. Privilege lost. But he cries and he’s sorry, and he begs for another try!!! And I hate to admit it, but I usually give in…I am creating kids who don’t take me seriously. ?

Anna
Ashley
Ashley

Ugh! I hate seeing my kids sad or disappointed, even if it was their choices that caused it. I think it’s important to dig in when it counts. #whendoesitcount? #canigetamanual?

Ashley
Laura
Laura

I’ll take one, please! Because I just don’t want my kids to think that I’m putting them in a time out or giving them some other consequence just because I’m mean or something. What is that the Lord says about His discipline of us?

Laura
Anna
Anna

Looking it up now, Laura…LOL

Anna
Laura
Laura

Proverbs 3:12 “The Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”

Laura
Anna
Anna

So if God disciplines us because He loves us, then maybe that can be in our minds when we have to discipline our kids. Because they aren’t going to say, “Oh thank you, mother, for disciplining me, because I really feel your love right now.” ?

Anna
Laura
Laura

That would be awesome, if they would say that!  But, no. Consequences aren’t fun, and we need to let them know we know that.  We can give the consequence and empathize with them about how hard it is.  

Laura
Ashley
Ashley

Brilliant! I think that’s such a good point Laura.  Discipline can be done with a posture of empathy–it doesn’t have to be accompanied with frustration or anger.?

Ashley
Laura
Laura

I wish it was easy to do this, but it will take some discipline on our part too.

Laura
Anna
Anna

For sure!

Anna
Ashley
Ashley

So maybe instead of a manual, I need Emmanuel. Ha! God be with us….in our disciplined disciplining. ?

Ashley

Soaking in the Truth

Scripture to encourage you:

  • Hebrews 12:4-13: In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood.  And have you completely forgotten this word of encouragement that addresses you as a father addresses his son? It says, “My son, do not make light of the Lord’s discipline, and do not lose heart when he rebukes you, because the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.” Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. “Make level paths for your feet,” so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed.

Music to inspire you:

  • “My Revival” by Lauren Daigle 

Readings to come alongside of you:

  • Parenting by Design by Chris Groff 
  • How to Discipline Kids: The Key to Being a Consistent Parent by Sara Bean

Living Out the Truth

Ideas to try:

  • Have a talk with your husband/mother/father/daycare worker about the expectations and consequences you want to set. Make sure the main caretakers of your child are on the same page with you. Ask them for their support.
  • Communicate those expectations and consequences to your child as well.
  • Stand by your word. Follow through. Don’t just threaten to turn the car around; turn it around.
  • Try to deliver/enforce the consequences with empathy instead of anger. Take deep breaths, take breaks, or just postpone your response for a minute or two.
  • Seek out encouragement (because you DO need a cheerleader!) through songs, scripture, and parenting books or blogs like those above.

{These suggestions are ideas from novice moms. Sometimes our life situations need more. In that case, seeking out professional help is the right call.}


 

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Mom Win Wednesday: Anna Brink

12 / 21 / 1612 / 23 / 16

Michelle
Michelle

Today we’re excited to feature one of our blog team writers, Anna Brink!

Michelle
Anna
Anna

Hi! Here’s my selfie! The mop of curly hair in my lap belongs to my four-year old, who is inevitably on my lap in the mornings.

Anna
Michelle
Michelle

Ha, I can relate. Do you wear any other hats in addition to your [big, gigantic, hugely significant] Mom Hat?

Michelle
Anna
Anna

I’m a wife, daughter, sister, and aunt. Those are also hugely significant hats to me. But beyond that, I am part of the Communications Team at my church. I work on everything from the website and social media to writing and editing. Speaking of, in addition to Texting the Truth, I write for the women’s ministry blog at my church called Our Redeemed Lives: Imperfect Women Made Whole in Christ.  I love using my communication skills to support the awesome ministries at our church. Also, in my free time (haha), I direct a middle school musical in the winter at the school I used to teach at. Right now we are dancing to “Move It, Move It!” in Madagascar Jr! 

Anna
Michelle
Michelle

I love what you said about being a mom, wife, daughter, sister, aunt first. As moms we can do so many things but that’s such a good reminder that those primary roles are so special. For me personally, I don’t want to get caught up in wearing all of my other hats that I lose sight of how important those primary roles are. Thanks for sharing that. So tell us about your kids…

Michelle
Anna
Anna

We have a 10-year old daughter, 7-year old son, and 4-year old daughter. These three are beautiful, funny, challenging, surprising, predictable and yet unpredictable, all wrapped up into one pretty cute package (or at least we think so). ?

I feel like I’m entering into an interesting stage of motherhood (not like there was ever a dull moment). But I’m at a point where I have a pre-teen, entering puberty and asking all pre-teen-type questions; a preschooler, who still just wants to play puzzles and marvel at the clouds; and one in the middle, who just wants to toss the ball and play with me (like  constantly). They are all at such different stages of their childhood (which is fun), but I feel like I need to switch gears all the time.
And I want to say, honestly, to my friends with little ones: If you are worried that after your babies grow up, there won’t be any “precious moments” anymore…there won’t be cuddle time or bonding time…there still is. It changes; it looks a little different. But every stage has its precious moments, the ups and the downs that come with the age.

Anna
Michelle
Michelle

Love that. What is a recent mom win you experienced that took time and perseverance to accomplish?

Michelle
Anna
Anna

My ten-year old has been struggling in school for the first time, ever. She’s always coasted through, working hard but loving every minute and not needing my help. She learned how to read with ease, loved doing her homework, and tested gifted in many subjects. This year, however, things changed. Her teachers said she was withdrawn, wasn’t participating or talking, had missing assignments, and seemed “zoned out” most of the time. She’d sneak to read her book under her desk instead of pay attention in Social Studies. This wasn’t like her at all. In fact, this was the opposite of her “normal.” Welcome to middle school.
After weeks of talking to teachers, talking with her, crying, praying, talking with my husband, and giving her strategies to try in class, and working with her in the evenings, she seems to have jumped this hurdle. Or at least, we are finding a way to jump it together. It has taken perseverance every day to help her get to this point. We are so determined to get her through this year, and most importantly, to get her to participate and regain her confidence in school.

Anna
Michelle
Michelle

Thanks for your transparency in sharing that. I know all of us moms can relate to how much perseverance it sometimes takes to  help our kids win. And as you mentioned, when that happens, it is a big win for us as mom too.?

So what is a mom win that you would text your best friend?

Michelle
Anna
Anna

My son’s reading is now at the Level G! This is great news because he started off the first grade this year a little bit behind and not liking reading much at all.

 

Anna
Michelle
Michelle

? YAY! Anything else you want to share?

Michelle
Anna
Anna

I’m learning in my personal and spiritual life that I can trust God to guide the direction of my life. I can tell Him about the things that weigh down my heart, and He will answer. My job is to trust, and to follow, as best as I can, in faith. Faith is a muscle that we have to use in order for it to grow stronger.

Anna
Michelle
Michelle

I can definitely attest to that in my own life too. Thanks so much for sharing today. I respect who you are as a mom and so thankful you share your insights with us.

Michelle

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