Wrestling Sheets and Attitudes

Laura
Laura

I hate to complain, but has anyone ever had to change the sheets on bunk beds?

Laura
Anna
Anna

No, but I can imagine…🙈  Changing sheets is one of my least favorite chores! It’s like the sheets and I are in a wrestling match every time! LOL

Anna
Laura
Laura

😂

Laura
Jessica
Jessica Sorosiak

And then you get a kid or two who wants to “help” with the sheets.  Getting a fitted sheet on a mattress with a kid on it is not my idea of fun!

Jessica Sorosiak
Laura
Laura

No! No fun at all! Plus, I always end up sweating!  And while the drops roll down my back, I try to recruit the four year olds to toss me the pillows and the 1 million stuffed animals they need to have in bed with them to me. They end up rolling around on the floor.  I start to feel annoyed and then mad because no one is helping me do this task that drives me insane, and then before you know it, one of the twins hits his head on the toy chest, I hit my head on the ceiling fan on the way down the ladder for the 9th time and everyone is a mess!

Laura
Anna
Anna

Whoa girl! I am exhausted just thinking about all that! Glad I don’t have bunk beds now. 😳

Anna
Laura
Laura

Ha, yes, you should be… but this isn’t the only chore I could complain about.  But the truth is, I hate that I feel so annoyed at the chores (laundry, dishes, etc).  I hate complaining about things I feel like I should be grateful for.  Where does this grumbling come from?

Laura
Jessica
Jessica Sorosiak

Like…why do I have to wash all of those dirty dishes in the sink that I used to cook all the food I was able to make?! (I hope you sense my sarcasm!😏)

Jessica Sorosiak
Anna
Anna

I totally hear you. I have found that I get really grumpy whenever I even LOOK at a pile of laundry. And doing it, well… let’s just say I have impressed MYSELF at my ability to procrastinate on the laundry. I just always feel like it is never. never. ending. I inherited this from my parents – it is hanging in our bathroom:

Anna
Jessica
Jessica Sorosiak

Ha!  They make a good point…

Jessica Sorosiak
Laura
Laura

Love that!  And I understand that my house is soooo not going to be perfect.  And the nature of chores is continuous.  But if I understand that, why am I so whiny about it all?

Laura
Anna
Anna

Hard question, because I know too – we “should” be grateful for everything we have. And sometimes I am. But most of the time, I probably need an attitude adjustment.  

Anna
Jessica
Jessica Sorosiak

Well, without God’s help, I don’t think I can.😉 I’m not sure we  necessarily have to love doing every task (I mean, God gave us preferences, after all!), but we don’t have to take on a negative attitude.

Jessica Sorosiak
Anna
Anna

How do we make that U-turn on a daily basis?

Anna
Laura
Laura

Hmm…another good question. Because I don’t really love changing the sheets…So if we are saying that it is unrealistic to enjoy some of our tasks where does that leave my heart? I think I am struck by the fact that my heart is reflected in my whining.  What’s that scripture?  From the mouth, that heart speaks or something? (Luke 6:45)

Laura
Anna
Anna

But does that mean that we have to like our chores?

Anna
Laura
Laura

I have always correlated liking something with being grateful for something, but maybe that’s not totally true?  I mean, do I expect my children to like picking up their toys?  What do I say to the boys when they start whining?  

Laura
Anna
Anna

We tell them they don’t have to like it! But that they need to be responsible in caring for what they have. Oh, and have a grateful heart for it too. Yet, that’s easier said than done.

Anna
Laura
Laura

Exactly!  So what do we tell ourselves?

Laura
Jessica
Jessica Sorosiak

I think it’s important to focus on the circumstances around the chores, and maybe that will help change our attitudes and our hearts.  I don’t have to like the dirty dishes in the sink, because God knows I’d rather never wash a dish again, but I am thankful for the delicious food I get to enjoy that produced those dishes and I’m especially grateful for the time I get to spend around the table with family and friends while enjoying the food made with those dishes.  And if I choose to reflect on those circumstances, it makes me feel a little less negative and more neutral about the dishes waiting for me in the sink.

Jessica Sorosiak
Laura
Laura

So instead of willing my attitude to change from negative to positive, maybe I could focus on what my heart is truly grateful for.  My heart is so grateful to God for my home and warm cozy places for my boys to sleep.  And because they share a room, they are building special memories that will last their lifetime.  That makes me so thankful.

Laura
Anna
Anna

And I’m thankful my family is well dressed!  And that they have many opportunities to get messy!

Anna
Laura
Laura

Right. So if my heart is focused on that while I wrestle the sheets, my attitude will follow suit.  That seems like an easier shift  to make.  Grateful for my circumstances, family, friends, and taking the chores and the to-do’s more in-stride.  Thanks, ladies!

Laura

 

Soaking in the Truth

Scripture to encourage you:

    • “As for those who do have riches in the present world, charge them not to be proud and not to let their hopes rest on the uncertainties of riches but to rest their hopes on God, who richly provides us with all things for our enjoyment.  Charge them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, to be generous and ready to share.  In this way they will treasure up for themselves a good foundation for the future, so that they may lay hold of the real life.”  1 Timothy 6:17-19
    • “Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that yo may be blameless and pure children of God, without defect in the midst of a twisted and perverted generation, among whom you shine like stars in the sky.” Philippians 2:14-15
    • “We pray that you will be continually strengthened with all the power that comes from his glorious might so that you will be able to persevere and be patient in any situation, joyfully giving thanks to the Father for having made you fit to share in the inheritance of his people in the light.” Colossians 1:11-12

Music to inspire you:


Readings to come alongside of you:


    • Play music while you are doing your chores. It’s harder to grumble while your are singing! I actually do this for my boys as a challenge.  I’ll say, let’s see if we can clean this room up by the time 3 songs are finished or something.  (Translated to moms: I’m going to work on these dishes for 3 songs and then the rest will be done tomorrow!)
    • Take to heart that image in Anna’s bathroom from above.  It’s a hard thing to accept, but it might help put chores in perspective to what is really important– our faith and our families.

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