Moms in Progress: Holly Whitacre

Hello Everyone!  I’m happy to be here.  Here’s my family picture from a few years ago…

It was taken at a tea shoppe that used to be housed on the Lebanon Bike Trail in Cincinnati, Ohio. We were at a tea party for a group of women my grandma’s age who had invested in my mom and me throughout the years as a small group Bible study for women.

We entered the shoppe, selected hats off the walls and took a two-hour break from the agony that I was experiencing due to a major shift in my life. I was battling depression and had stepped into a healthier life. At the time, I was a stay-at-home Mom, with no income, no prospects, and no idea what I was going to do. Yet, I chose Joy. By God’s Grace.

It is 15 years later. That little girl is studying in Luxembourg via Miami of Ohio and texted me moments ago about her trips to Belgium and Munich!

I traveled through single parenthood for every moment of every day of pre-K through senior year, eloping after we sacheted her through HS graduation. Life. Is. Good. God is even Better…

Kaitlynn is 21 years old and is a Strategic Communications and Arts Management double major at Miami of Ohio.  She is interested in working in the business portion of the music and film industry. She is involved at Crossroads Community Church Oxford Campus and decided to get baptized last spring. She is articulate, kind-hearted, gentle, fierce and brilliant. And I am proud.

I am a Life Coach, with a practice called “Move Ahead Coaching” that focuses on women navigating personal or professional transitions. I have a particular specialization in working with moms of young children who are seeking to also keep an eye on their own goals.

I am also a teacher, and most of my career in education has been spent as a Gifted Intervention Specialist, working with elementary school children.

Most importantly, I am a Christ follower, which means lots of prayer, reading, and writing. I am also a newlywed with a tremendous devotion to my husband and pride in his career as a Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, concentrating on addiction issues. He is also an adjunct professor at Indiana State University.

Did I mention that I am proud??

My favorite book: blank journals, with fine quality paper, waiting to be filled with my conversations with God.

Does sleep count? How about coffee?

Absolutely!  Pumpkin spice.

Toast. No kidding. And then a walk to the Jeep to go sit in a restaurant. Five nights straight.

In truth, life usually looks pretty simple when I am cooking.  Tonight we are having grilled salmon and veggies.

Wow. That is not hard to remember. About seven weeks ago, Kaitlynn got on a plane for Iceland, and then Luxembourg, and I won’t see her until we get there on December 12th. The entire summer I felt like I was in a pregnancy again…about to give birth. I could not figure it out and really spent some major time in prayer, crying and agonizing over what-have-I-forgotten-to-teach-her-that-I-need-to-wedge-in-NOW.

God has been good, as always. He has been gracious. Kaitlynn is there, thriving. I am here, thriving, too.

Time in the quiet early hours, like 3:00 am, everyday for weeks–candle lit, coffee in hand–that quiet time  is what got me through. In the stillness of night He speaks clearest to me, and He offers that to everyone. My Bible is literally falling apart after the past 13 years and I love that…He is watching, guiding, speaking…If I stay laser-focused, get quiet, and open my heart…then I can hear Him.  Know this: I’m not always able to quiet myself like this and hear…sometimes the rattle of life does just that: rattle. And I definitely don’t wake up at 3:00 am all the time…that happens on my own when I’m really worried about something. I feel like its a wake-up call God gives me to set things straight and help me discover the peace He is offereing.

As soon as Kaitlynn got to Luxembourg, she went and had American food, followed by Chinese food the next day. She has a food blog, so I get it, but I thought my favorite foodie would immediately embrace local flavors with as much gusto as she’s been embracing the equivalent of a local steakhouse.. ?  She’s made up for it since, though, and has spent every weekend in a different country for the the past 7 weeks, so her international foodie status (is that a thing?) is definitely intact.

Every part and stage of motherhood I have thought, “This is The Best Stage”…and then it keeps getting better. Truly. Have we had our moments? Have I had mine? You bet. Thank goodness for God’s Grace. The joy of the journey far outweighs the drama of the moment.